Buddy, This Stuff Will KILL You!

Have you ever met anyone who was generous to a fault?  You know the type…always has a smile for everyone, tips big, laughs hard…and often.   They have the patience of Job, the kindness of saints, and give even when they themselves appear to have very little.  You might believe it takes more than you have in you to be that kind of person.  And you’d be correct.  It’s the difference between giving ‘til it hurts and giving ‘til it kills you.

The general consensus is that giving is a good thing.  Most people don’t have a problem with the concept.   When kindness is shown to others, it makes everyone feel good.  The hope is that somewhere along the course of life those acts of kindness will be returned.  Some spiritual practices call this karma.   For Christians, it is commonly known as the law of sowing and reaping – the golden rule.  Be nice to people, people will be nice to you.   It’s a ‘nice’ idea.

This notion of ‘giving ‘til it hurts’ acknowledges that giving doesn’t always feel nice, and that not all who receive are those that we would consider deserving.  Sometimes it’s inconvenient, like putting spare change in the Salvation Army can at Christmas.  That could have paid for a ride to work on the toll road, but it’s really no big deal – no real sacrifice.   That kind of giving stings a little, but we can still walk away self-satisfied because we did something ‘nice’.  Observations like this made me ask, “Is this concept biblical?” As it turns out, it’s not.  But, giving ‘til it kills you…THAT’s in the Book!

Throughout the Bible there are examples prophets, kings and plain old hard working men and women who gave all in word, deed and substance. These are folks that have suffered everything from the death of their own desires and ideas; to the death of convenient living; to the actual physical death to advance the Kingdom of God.    Then, there is the ultimate act of giving.  Jesus Christ considered it a JOY set before Him to give His life to benefit all mankind, some of whom discard this awesome love offering like so much junk mail.

This type of giving and kindness is love beyond our natural capabilities.  It requires a true relationship with the Giver of all good and perfect gifts.  By walking with God and taking on His nature, we begin to activate that life-sharing, generous spirit that’s in us.  Trusting God, as we die to all that we think we understand about life and the worth of ‘stuff,’ makes it easier to let go of things we hold precious.  As we really get to know God, we discover that if He desires that we give something away, it is usually to bring something of far greater value into our lives, or to protect us from far greater peril.

When we give til it hurts, there is still a fleshly pay off, and we tend to relish in knowing that. When we give til it kills us, we’re dead…the payoff doesn’t even matter.  No one may ever know what you did or for whom you did it.  It’s just another pebble in the pond…all we ever really notice are the ripples.  But God gets the Glory and that’s all that matters.

It’s time that we as Christians determine to give until it kills us. That way, others may actually see God living in us.  Now, wouldn’t that be nice?


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Nancy Wilson
    Jun 06, 2012 @ 16:56:43

    This is actually called the “Law of Reciprocity.” I just went through explaining to a non-Christian what this really means. I am on another website where a concerned friend wanted to take donations to help a friend of hers who has an eye disease named: Keratitis which is causing her to go blind or corneal ulcers. 80 women sent in donations and reached within one month $6200.00. She has to fly out to California to the only doctor that can do some type of laser treatment and then it furthers on to another treatment. She was so grateful but wanted to “re-gift” the rest of the money that she wouldn’t use to a cat organization. WHOA…I had to send a FB text to the entire page to explain what the Law of Reciprocity meant. To make it short; there are 3 principles to this law. The Law of Reciprocity is first a principle that is like the law of gravity or therm-dynamics. It can never change. Second: This is a universal principle. Thirdly, the Law of reciprocity is for every action there is a law of equal and opposite reaction. Jesus said in Luke 6:38 Give and it shall be given to you: good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that you mete with it shall be measured to you again. You take what you have, give it and it comes back to you way beyond measure. If you cast your bread (money, gifts, love) upon the waters (meaning, giving cheerfully to someone or organization) you will find it again, meaning it will return to you. That’s the Law of Reciprocity. If you give out kindness, love or mercy…you will receive it back. This is the way the universe has been set up. I explained to her that when 80 people gave towards her to have this operation, that they set the Law of Reciprocity into motion as it always moves forward. This is a fundamental law for human growth and also for foundational growth, such as giving to a church fund to build a church. I told her that she could do whatever she wanted with her money, but re-gifting her money to help her regain her sight and sending it to a cat association would reverse the joy that we had by giving her the money to help her, therefore stopping the Law of Reciprocity of (joy) because she didn’t want to keep the overages if it didn’t cost that much. We would feel offended and then the Law of Reciprocity would change. We all pitched in to tell her to keep all of the money, even if she had more, and use it as an abundant blessing from all of us. I don’t mind that when someone gives me money that I would give some to our church because I know the Law and what it represents. I also gave her an explanation that when we obey the Lord (and this is more Biblical, yet the Law of Reciprocity reaches far beyond our intellect and even the world enjoys receiving back)..that James and I did a project for the church to which we gave over $17,000.00 dollars towards this project (Alabaster Studios and the first film we did). We gave this amount when we had to purchase cameras, green screens, sewing up costumes, and the sets we used that God saw our hearts and within one month of it being over (Journey to the Cross) we were holding a check of $25000.00 of a contest that we did not enter. We obeyed, and a blessing chased us down. We bought some steaks from Dominick’s store and the our card that we swiped to get a deduction on them took our name and address and automatically entered us in that contest. One month later, we received a letter from the Don Jagoda Association telling us we were one out of 10 chosen throughout the United States to win this contest. We gave God all of the glory. Because it was obedience. Rest assured…this was the Law of Reciprocity in action. Just another comment towards your blog. Sincerely: Big Jim and Nancy Wilson



  2. happy4vr
    Jun 06, 2012 @ 17:27:13

    I was asked byone of the cast members in the movie, how we were going to pay this exhorbitant amount back? She asked if we charged everything. Actually we spent most of our tax money and charged a lot of it. My comment back to her was “The Lord will supply our need.” God knew our obedience, and the simple faith that we used knowing that we had no idea how we were going to pay off this amount; what came later was an enormous surprise. I love surprises from the Lord, don’t you? If we speak into existence our need (and he knows our needs before we pray) the Lord will set that Law of Reciprocity into motion (which always keeps moving forward) into the direction that we ask. You have not because you ask not. My father supplies all of our needs according to his riches in glory. All we can say is “GLORY!”. I am so glad I’m one of HIS kids. For the wealth of the wicked is layed up for the righteous!. God Bless.



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