I think I’m a pretty cool person. I am smart and kind. I am comical, but I’m not very funny, even though I laugh a lot with my friends. I’m actually quite literal…I don’t get sarcasm quickly, so smart remarks and deadpan jokes get lost on me. I don’t consider myself a classic beauty, but I am not an ugly woman, by any means. I am a faithful friend…loyal to a fault. It takes an awful lot for me to decide I’ve had enough of someone. I have been very busy these last few years, but when I am being a homebody, I love to cook. I am an excellent cook; mac and cheese, roast beef and potatoes, turkey tacos, spaghetti, sour cream pound cake, pistachio delight, chocolate chip cookies…and my favorite cake to make is vanilla wafer cake. And, I cook with love in every bite.
You might say I am the total package.
But what kind of package would I be if I weren’t at least vaguely acquainted with my flaws?
(Aha…betcha didn’t see THAT coming?)
There is tremendous liberty in knowing one’s own boundaries and limitations. It is of utmost importance if you expect to witness your own greatest success. It is vital to know, not only what you are capable of, but what tendencies you possess that could trip you up or slow you down if you don’t keep them in check.
For example, I hate to disappoint people when I know they are counting on me. As a consequence, I tend to try too hard. I try to know what I’m supposed to know and probably everybody else is supposed to know. I suppose it’s in an effort to be indispensable.
And, I chase squirrels.
I cannot recall any conversation I’ve ever had, any assignment I’ve ever completed (any blog I’ve ever posted) that did not take longer than it should have for all the detours I’ve taken.
These are only some of my own frailties that I am aware of. I have more that I know about. There are scads that about which I have no clue, I’m sure. But the nice thing about knowing what your flaws are is, it doesn’t bother you so much when people are bothered by you. You can understand, even appreciate their irritation, frustration and angst that you produce. You can even empathize with the emotion you provoke.
It makes it easier to apologize, too. Which makes it easier for others to forgive you, even if you cannot completely provide for them a remedy.
But, the BEST THING about knowing the best and the worst things about myself is that I am comforted by the fact that I am JUST LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE.
**JUST FOR CLARITY* Everyone is UNIQUE with a particular set of gifts and talents whose sole purpose is to build up the body of Christ, to glorify God. WITH THAT BEING SAID…**
I am just like everybody else in that I am blessed with assets and liabilities built into my personality. Knowing that makes it easier when other people exhibit areas where extra grace is required.
The fact is this: Everybody has occasion to get an everybody else’s nerves. This is the great flaw in humans being. It is not at all that difficult for us to annoy each other. We enjoy our individuality …sometimes too much.
That is what makes it so difficult when folks don’t do things the way they think it should be done. somewhere in our selfish hearts, we complain and turn up our noses, thinking, “That isn’t the way I would have done it.”
And while you were pulling a ‘Frank Sinatra,’ doing it, “Your way,” you’re keeping someone else from discovering a gift that would make them a greater contribution to the common purpose of building up the Body for God’s glory.
But, you got the job done.
Okay, so…maybe NEXT time, before you decide that if you want it done right, you have to do it yourself, how about you give someone the space to find their place; to recognize an ounce of their potential and see, first hand, what a little extra grace given can do to remove a spot or wrinkle in the fabric of the Body?
Let’s never forget to give a little extra grace, to see others reach their potential. We will never know when a little extra grace will be required for us.